Self care is one of those buzz word things you hear people say from time to time but what does that actually mean. In this blog, we will discuss the concept of self-care for parents and the challenges they face in prioritizing their own needs. We will explore practical tips for incorporating self-care into busy daily routines and overcoming guilt and communication barriers. So, let’s dive in!

The State of Self-Care

Self-care is not just about taking bubble baths or going for walks. It is an internal state of being, a mental set, and a way of approaching life. It is important to shift our perspective from self-care as an external act to self-care as a state of mind. By understanding this, we can prioritize our own well-being without feeling guilty or neglecting our parental duties.

Finding Time for Self-Care

As parents, it can feel overwhelming to find time for ourselves in our jam-packed daily routines. However, by questioning our thoughts and being curious about our time, we can identify small pockets of time for self-care. Whether it’s 15 minutes in the car, listening to a favorite podcast, or enjoying a moment of sunshine, these slivers of time can make a big difference in our well-being.

Overcoming Guilt

Mother’s guilt is a common challenge that many parents face. It stems from societal expectations and the belief that putting ourselves first is selfish. However, we need to shift our mindset and understand that self-care is not selfish. It is the most selfless thing we can do because when our cup is full, we have more to give to our children and loved ones. Embracing self-care without guilt requires changing our internal programming and recognizing our worthiness as individuals.

Setting Boundaries and Communicating Needs

Effectively expressing our needs and boundaries to our loved ones can be challenging, especially when they are not accustomed to considering our needs. It requires breaking free from codependent patterns and understanding that our self-care is essential for our well-being and the well-being of our family. By speaking our truth with power and grace, we can set boundaries and make others understand the importance of our needs as parents.

Below are some simple questions and answers often asked by parents,

Q&A

Q: How can I find time for self-care in my busy schedule?

A: By questioning your thoughts and being curious about your time, you can identify small pockets of time for self-care and make the most of them.

Q: How do I overcome guilt when prioritizing my own needs as a parent?

A: Recognize that self-care is not selfish but the most selfless thing you can do. Embrace self-love and understand that taking care of yourself allows you to better care for your children and loved ones.

Q: How can I effectively communicate my needs and boundaries to my loved ones?

A: Speak your truth with power and grace, understanding that it is not about upsetting others but about prioritizing your own well-being. Break free from codependent patterns and embrace self-love.

This blog post was based off a live Q&A discussion between Dr Vanessa Lapointe and Jules Sebastian during one of our recent ParentTV bootcamps. To gain more insights and practical tips on self-care for parents you can click on the image below is access this full bootcamp covering not only self-care but a range of topics to help support parents of primary school kids.