All you need is Love – The Connection and Love Cup
Children don’t “attention seek”, they “connection seek” to fill their Love and Belonging Cup.
More In This Course
What’s your biggest cup?
Learn about your families basic human needs and explore each person’s unique “needs profile”. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour with the Phoenix Cups' course here.
I will survive – The Safety Cup
Your children are driven to thrive so what can you do to ensure they’re survival cup filling as much as they can. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour…
I’ve got the Power – The Mastery Cup
Children who need power and recognition have creative ways of getting it. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour with the Phoenix Cups' course here.
Freedom Fighter – The Freedom Cup
Spirited children will fight fiercely for freedom. Parenting with Freedom Cup filling in mind can be Freedom Cup filling for the whole family. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding…
Just for the fun of it – The Fun Cup
When the Fun Cup is empty, it’s not fun for anyone so how can we put fun back into our everyday routine? Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour…
You can’t pour from an empty cup
Regardless of your parenting style, you’ll be a better parent with full cups so let’s make a cup filling plan. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour with the…
Parenting with different needs profiles
With the Phoenix Cups theory in mind, let's take a look at how two people with different needs profiles can parent together.
Thinking cup filling thoughts with Chris Phoenix
In this video, Chris explores how the way we think about things affects the way we feel about things which impacts on our behaviour.
Unrealistic Expectations with Chris Phoenix
Adjusting your expectations when it comes to parenting can be very important based on what dominant cup your children have.
Using Music to Express Emotion
Music Therapist Allison talks about the importance of teaching children (and ourselves as adults) to move emotions so that we can better deal with them. Music is one of the…
How to use evidence based punishment techniques
(6:29 mins) Let's have a chat about what punishment actually means in the world of behaviour science. By looking at examples of real punishment that we use daily without noticing can draw a light onto how punishment doesn't have to be the enemy.
Why Teens Will Often Be Driven Towards Risky Behaviour (Sexting, Drinking etc) and What Parents Can Do
Did you know the human brain is not fully developed until about the age of 24? In this video, Karen Young discusses what is happening in the brains of teenagers,…
Understanding children’s choices
(3:31 mins) Why on earth is my child doing THAT? Let’s look at it through their eyes.
Speaking to children without stupid questions
Do you find yourself asking your child questions and not receiving an answer? Teacher Tom discusses the notion of speaking to children with stupid questions and how we need to…
When kids come home ‘naughty’ from other people’s houses
Ever had your child go off to a playdate or sleepover and come home with a bad attitude?
Alternatives to punishments and rewards
Teacher Tom explores how punishments and rewards work in a child's mind and the concept of 'natural consequences'.
When Children tell lies
(2:58 mins) Fibs, white lies and pathological lying… how do we deal with that?
How to make a plan for technology
Behavioural Specialist, Jason Gibson, talks about how making a plan with your child or teen to guide your responses when something goes wrong can be hugely beneficial to you both.
What to do when your teenagers muckup
It is inevitable that at some point your tween or teen will do something wrong. Often, it is not something a parent can control, but what you can control is…