What’s your biggest cup?
Learn about your families basic human needs and explore each person’s unique “needs profile”.
More In This Course
All you need is Love – The Connection and Love Cup
Children don’t “attention seek”, they “connection seek” to fill their Love and Belonging Cup. You can download the 'Connection Plan' Sandi mentioned here. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding…
I will survive – The Safety Cup
Your children are driven to thrive so what can you do to ensure they’re survival cup filling as much as they can. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour…
I’ve got the Power – The Mastery Cup
Children who need power and recognition have creative ways of getting it. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour with the Phoenix Cups' course here.
Freedom Fighter – The Freedom Cup
Spirited children will fight fiercely for freedom. Parenting with Freedom Cup filling in mind can be Freedom Cup filling for the whole family. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding…
Just for the fun of it – The Fun Cup
When the Fun Cup is empty, it’s not fun for anyone so how can we put fun back into our everyday routine? Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour…
You can’t pour from an empty cup
Regardless of your parenting style, you’ll be a better parent with full cups so let’s make a cup filling plan. Find out more by watching the 'Guiding Behaviour with the…
Parenting with different needs profiles
With the Phoenix Cups theory in mind, let's take a look at how two people with different needs profiles can parent together.
Thinking cup filling thoughts with Chris Phoenix
In this video, Chris explores how the way we think about things affects the way we feel about things which impacts on our behaviour.
Unrealistic Expectations with Chris Phoenix
Adjusting your expectations when it comes to parenting can be very important based on what dominant cup your children have.
How to manage Sensory Overload
With so much sensory information rivalling for our children's attention, how do we help them manage the messages to try and avoid them coming to the point of overwhelm? Click…
Listening to and advocating for your child
How to hear your child and advocate for them with power and grace - co-depending and listening.
How Predictability Helps Children Function
Predictability for your child is more than just a routine. Allison discusses how creating a predictable environment for your child can help mould their behaviour and brain function.
Why most punishment doesn’t work
(4:11 mins) Are you struggling with consequences that simply don't work? Do you find yourself relying on punishment that, in the end, feels useless and make you seem like the "bad guy"? Learn why most punishment does not work and be free of the parenting guilt we often mix with using ineffective punishment.
Understanding children’s choices
(3:31 mins) Why on earth is my child doing THAT? Let’s look at it through their eyes.
Don’t take your kid’s behaviour personally!
David Loyst talks us through using consciousness to become aware and manage our internal states so we can feel what is going on inside our child.
Teenage Flare-Ups: Why They Happen and How to Deal With Them
The incomplete development of the teenage brain means they'll often misinterpret everyday communication. Understanding this as parents can help us to communicate more effectively with our adolescents and reduce the…
Super Heroes, Gun Play and Rough Play
Claire Orange, parenting expert, answers a ParentTV viewer's question about superhero play, gun play and rough play.
The Power of Informational Statements
In a previous video, Teacher Tom talks about the dangers of speaking to children in commands, so if this is the case, how do we speak to children? This video…
Discipline without damage doesn’t mean without limits, boundaries or growing up
Often times when people hear that children shouldn’t be given consequences or put in time out, but rather understood empathically and championed developmentally, they get worried! Usually the worry is…